The Getup: “Spontaneous” Picnic at the Lake

Because, “Hey, why don’t we have a picnic at the lake this afternoon?” is a heckuva lot more exciting for your partner than, "Picnic next week?”

Spontaneity in a relationship is exciting. It's also… a lot of work both logistically and emotionally.

Impromptu nights out or, say, a picnic this coming weekend *ahem* are essential for keeping long term relationships vibrant. That's why we're big fans of “strategic spontaneity.” The idea being you put 10 minutes of thought into coming up with a few fun surprise gestures you can spread out on your calendar. That way, you're not forced to actually be spontaneous in the moment, but you still get the credit for it. This is what the world's finest legal experts would refer to as a loophole.

So when Saturday rolls around and you casually drop over your morning coffee, “Let's do the chores tomorrow: I'll pack a bottle of wine, that cheese you like, and some sandwiches, and we can sit at the lake this afternoon,” you'll look like James Bond but secretly be a well-planned Q.

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Short sleeve chambray shirt: Buck Mason, $95 / save: Amazon, $30

V-neck pocket t-shirt: Goodthreads, $15

Dock shorts: J.Crew, $54.50 / chino shorts: Gap, $27

Converse All Star 70s: Amazon, $80

Todd Snyder x Timex Field Watch: Amazon, $62

Persol Sunglasses: Amazon, $109

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Andrew Snavely

Andrew founded Primer in 2008 and brings 15+ years of men's style expertise. Known for his practical, relatable approach to style and self-development, he has been a recognized speaker at conferences and has styled work for top brands. Off-duty, he loves photography & editing, and enjoys road trips with his dog, Leela. Raised in rural Pennsylvania, educated in DC, and living in LA for nearly 20 years, Andrew's diverse experiences shape the relatable and real-world advice that has helped millions through Primer. On Instagram: @andrewsnavely and @primermagazine.