Introducing Soapbox Therapy: An Advice Column For Guys from an Experienced Psychotherapist (She’s Cute Too)

Primer is excited to announce our new monthly advice column, Soapbox Therapy, created for guys just like us who may need some anonymous counsel from time to time.

Advice column? You may be thinking that kind of thing is reserved for the shallow analysis of girly teen magazines like Cosmopolitan or Seventeen. But we are men with real lives, and sometimes we need a little guidance. You may be looking for direction for something that you know your buddies won't understand, or you're too embarrassed to ask anyone about.  Or, maybe you're looking for the opinions of an educated expert.

We searched high and low for a professional who would be a good fit for the forward thinking, self-improving, introspective readers of Primer. The truth is, there are a lot of therapists and life coaches out there, but no one who really gets it, calls it like it is, and is actually intelligent, effective, and progressive. Therapists are smart…but modern, fresh, and relevant? Hard to find.

But then, we met Brooke.

Brooke is an advice columnist, a published writer, and a therapist (Masters Degree, the whole bit). She’s professional, and pretty damn cute to boot. But she’s more than a pretty face with a degree, she’s real. She's got the goods to deliver what Primer's readers need.

She’s been cheated on (no longer bitter so she claims) and even admits to have cheated — a long time ago. She’s watched her house burn down. She’s had 2 brain surgeries. She has broken hearts and has had her heart broken…more than once. She’s had one night stands and long term relationships.

She’s the girl you wish you always had around, because she gets it — we also think she’s the therapist we all need once in awhile.  Brooke is refreshing, and now she’s our Primer girl…and we’re happy to have her. Like we said, goods…delivered.

Send your questions, get real advice.

Starting now you can send questions to Soapbox Therapy, directly to Brooke about love, life, family, relationships, sex…all of it. And by the way no one  will know who the question is coming from. All is confidential.

Wishing you the best,

The Primer Team

More About Brooke

Brooke Miller MA, MFTi  (marriage and family therapist intern) was born in Detroit, grew up in Chicago, lost herself in Los Angeles and found herself in San Francisco…sort of. Her blog, Soapbox Therapy (, has been called “Raw, honest, thought-provoking, and wisely witty” by readers and critics and can be read in several publications including The SF Chronicle’s insert, TheIsCollection, and Cheeky Chicago. Brooke lives, writes, speaks, works, and analyzes…in San Francisco. She can be contacted at brooke(a)

*Disclaimer: Brooke cannot respond to every question asked, nor should her responses be considered professional medical advice.
Brooke received her Masters Degree in counseling psychology and is an MFTI (registered marriage and family therapist intern) working towards licensure in CA. Soapbox Therapy/Primer Magazine is not part of the licensing process and should not be considered psychotherapy. Soapbox Therapy/Primer Magaizine is commentary and advice based on Brooke's personal opinions and insight and should be regarded as such. Soapbox Therapy/Primer Magazine is in no way related to or reflective of the opinions or insight of Brooke's private practice supervisor, Cynthia Hoffman LMFT.


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  • Reply January 15, 2010


    Wow! Too old and happy to need advice, but an advocate of other opinions.

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  • Reply January 27, 2011


    Hello there, I am twenty-one years old student who is looking forward
    to hearing some basic advices from a psychologist or psychotherapist throughout my life.
    I am a such taciturn boy that it is pretty impossible to attract other
    people’s attention and it make friendship with me nearly impossible. I
    myself believe that I am very strange person, because of differences
    with all of my peers throughout my life. I think it is necessary to
    let you know more about my childhood. I was isolated boy during my
    primary school, secondary school and up to entering the university in
    late 2007. I am junior student of English Translation in Iran. I also
    have been suffering from Thalassemia Intermediate for the whole of my
    life time, but I am not feel any problem with my disease and I consider it for mental aspect not for physical one. I do not know whether it is related with my disease or not?
    I am strange because I love loneliness in a way that most of my friends
    have not positive opinion about my habits. I am both tolerant and
    angry, I am both taciturn and talkative, I am both friendly and cool
    but if you to know who really I am, I must tell you that I am honest,
    frank, taciturn, proud, and pretty selfish person, meanwhile my name
    is Mansour Abdi. I feel happy sometimes but suddenly I change in a
    strange and sudden way so that I do not like to be with anybody, even my close
    friends, family members or my loved ones. Dear, when I am in such
    loneliness, I do not have any bad feeling but I just want to be alone,
    and this is not limited to specific time or place or specific person,
    for example: I am with my friends an we all are happy and friendly but
    suddenly that kind of feeling come upon me and force me to leave my
    friends and go to a quiet place an sometimes smoke a cigar, I am not
    hatefull of that kind of loneliness but also I do enjoy it. I am
    living in a rented house with three friends of me and in the
    university I have lots of friends, all of the people around me
    seemingly like me so much, even some of my girl classmates show some
    kind of love towards me but I cannot show any kind of such a feeling even if I like somebody for no good reason.
    On the other hand my boy friends are pretty religious and that is some
    thing that I am not interested in it, because I am not a religious
    person, but my best friend is too much religious an sometimes I want
    to leave him forever, because of too much arguments with him for religious issues and other things. I do not know whether you have got the point and
    what would you suggest about me? What is wrong with me or other people around me?
    In comparison with my childhood I am not taciturn in the
    university like in high school. Do you think having relation with a
    girl could be helpful in case that I have not yet been with a opposite gender so far? Do you think religious extremism made me
    obsessed recently, because most of my friends increasingly speak about religious issues and put me on lots of pressure ? One of my class mates is too much extremist and my
    other friends are changing in that way (it is exactly my own opposite
    way and personal tastes), Do you think that I must leave them in order to become relieved of that pressure and change my life in my own favor not of them (esp. my best friend that I
    like him so much but we are too different in every aspect of life) and
    change into those my favourite personalities? I am really obsessed now
    so that I can not study my lessons and I have to smoke cigar and
    continue to be alone for the rest of my life! I did not have girl
    friend so far and I do not have much knowledge about their differences
    with us and I am doubtful about any advantages of such relationship for me? I must be alone during each day, and I enjoy it, but what
    about others? I have problem with communicating with other people, for
    example: My girl classmate want to speak with me, and several of them
    showed it in different ways, but I am to cool to start any relation!
    Sometimes I hate everybody and I want to leave them for no good
    reason, although I like them so much, but I am not committed to my
    friends and they criticize my coolness, and even I am not so dependent
    on my own family, though I love them.I have not specific problem with myself but when I am with different kinds of people,I do not feel comfortable and I want to be aware of this matter if I am strange and is there any problem with me. I will appreciate your helpful
    advices and any possible questions. Best regard

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