TED Talk: 30 is Not the New 20 [Video]

Dr. Meg Jay, a clinical psychologist who specializes in 20-somethings, offers an interesting perspective on the importance of our 20's, whether or not our major life decisions like marriage and career trajectory are getting pushed a few years. As she points out, that doesn't make our 20's a developmental downtime, it's a newfound sweet spot. One quote I found interesting: “The best time to work on your marriage is before you're in one.”
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12 Comments

  • Reply August 21, 2013

    Jason M

    Anyone have an idea where to find psychologists for 20-somethings in your city? I’ve been looking for a therapist myself for a while, and I’d love to have someone who actually specializes in the kinds of problems I’m having.

    • Reply August 22, 2013

      Stillz

      Jason, I found a great therapist by calling local colleges and asking them for referrals. They generally have a deep roster of therapists who work a lot with 20-somethings and know the issues we’re facing in our lives. I encourage you to take your time & find someone you feel is really tuned in to you – nothing worse than a therapist who doesn’t give a s***.

  • Reply August 21, 2013

    Sloan

    I’ve seen this TED talk before and LOVE it. Great post, gents.

  • Reply August 22, 2013

    Ali

    This made my day. Thank you.

  • Reply August 25, 2013

    TravisLibby

    The title of this post is a little depressing for a 31 yr. old.

    • Reply August 26, 2013

      Daniel

      Agreed.

  • Reply August 28, 2013

    Travis W.

    Horrible public speaker. It was painful to sit through. The message was mostly well-intentioned, and I’m sure practical and correct in most scenarios, but she’s somewhat pigeonholing “twenty-somethings” (a phrase she uses wayy too much in the speech). She’s saying “this is the correct way, this is the only way,” when in fact, there’s no absolute one way to do things.

    A summary of that entire speech would be to say: By telling people that “30 is the new 20,” you are giving those in their twenties a reason to procrastinate life.

  • Reply August 29, 2013

    Joel

    My buddy sent this to me a few months ago and I found it irritating then. Partly because 3 sentences could cover all she needed to say and partly because it seems TED talks are what passes for erudite thought these days.

  • Reply September 7, 2013

    TJ

    It’s a good post. Not flawless, but good. Makes you rethink what you’re doing with your life. Stop sitting around, and go do something! This is a growing time in your life! It should be noted that you should always be growing. Whether you’re a 20-something or 80-something, you don’t know everything. GROW.

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