TED Talk: 30 is Not the New 20 [Video]

Dr. Meg Jay, a clinical psychologist who specializes in 20-somethings, offers an interesting perspective on the importance of our 20's, whether or not our major life decisions like marriage and career trajectory are getting pushed a few years. As she points out, that doesn't make our 20's a developmental downtime, it's a newfound sweet spot. One quote I found interesting: “The best time to work on your marriage is before you're in one.”

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  • Jason M

    Anyone have an idea where to find psychologists for 20-somethings in your city? I’ve been looking for a therapist myself for a while, and I’d love to have someone who actually specializes in the kinds of problems I’m having.

    • Stillz

      Jason, I found a great therapist by calling local colleges and asking them for referrals. They generally have a deep roster of therapists who work a lot with 20-somethings and know the issues we’re facing in our lives. I encourage you to take your time & find someone you feel is really tuned in to you – nothing worse than a therapist who doesn’t give a s***.

  • Sloan

    I’ve seen this TED talk before and LOVE it. Great post, gents.

  • Ali

    This made my day. Thank you.

  • TravisLibby

    The title of this post is a little depressing for a 31 yr. old.

    • Daniel


  • Travis W.

    Horrible public speaker. It was painful to sit through. The message was mostly well-intentioned, and I’m sure practical and correct in most scenarios, but she’s somewhat pigeonholing “twenty-somethings” (a phrase she uses wayy too much in the speech). She’s saying “this is the correct way, this is the only way,” when in fact, there’s no absolute one way to do things.

    A summary of that entire speech would be to say: By telling people that “30 is the new 20,” you are giving those in their twenties a reason to procrastinate life.

  • Joel

    My buddy sent this to me a few months ago and I found it irritating then. Partly because 3 sentences could cover all she needed to say and partly because it seems TED talks are what passes for erudite thought these days.

  • TJ

    It’s a good post. Not flawless, but good. Makes you rethink what you’re doing with your life. Stop sitting around, and go do something! This is a growing time in your life! It should be noted that you should always be growing. Whether you’re a 20-something or 80-something, you don’t know everything. GROW.

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