Today I Will Be a Man – One Reddit User’s Manifesto for Being a Better Man

Are you the best man you can be?

Recently, a Reddit user shared his personal mission for being the best man he can be. I think all of us can relate to it. We want to be a certain type of person. A man of principle, work, and character. Devotion, responsibility, and thought.

But sometimes it feels like we can be better. Reprinted here with permission, is a heartfelt declaration to being the best man we all know we can be.


Today I Will Be a Man

I don't know what it is. I don't know what it was. But for all my life I haven't been a man.

At any point in my life I can say “this, this is why I didn't need to grow up”.

I was protected by my parents.

I was protected by the money I earned.

I was protected by people going easy on me.

And never did I take responsibility. Never did I work hard. Never did I do things because they needed to be done – instead I just did the minimum to get around – and for the rest found excuses.

I have lived like a child, all my life.

And I am in my twenties and still I live like a child.

I complain about the things I lack – instead of working for them.

I complain about the things others don't do – instead of doing them myself.

I worry about what might come – but I don't plan anything.

I pity myself in my sadness or worries – instead of acting upon them.

I wonder why I sit alone at home – instead of going out and making friends.

I hate myself for not learning the skills or languages I want to learn – instead of making the effort.

All my life I have lived like a child. All my life I was too scared or worried or lazy or distracted or immature to stand up and say:

This is what I want, and I will make it happen.

This is the person I want to meet and I will meet him.

This is the job I want and I will fight my ass off to get it.

This is the book I need to know and I will sit down and I will not eat or drink until I have finished it.

This is the world I want to conquer and I will not give up until I have conquered it.

Now is the time. Now is the time that I need to stand up and fight.

Why now?

Because else it is too late.

The longer I wait, the longer I keep thinking and speaking and acting like a child, the longer I will stay a child.

The longer I wait, the more unreachable my goals become.

The longer I wait, the less time that I can be a man.

The longer I wait, the more of my life will I have wasted.

Today is the day I will become a man.

Today is the day I will think like a man, speak like a man and act like a man.

Today and every day from now:

I will be there for those that need me.

I will stand up for what is right.

I will do what needs to be done.

I will fight for what I want.

I will persevere, even when things get hard.

I will work even when I feel lazy.

I will do sport even when my body aches.

I will learn even when my mind feels numb.

I will meet people even when I'm scared.

I will speak when I need to speak.

I will work when I need to work.

I will be what I want to be.

Today I will be a man.


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  • Reply October 18, 2012


    Speaking as a man quickly approaching to 40, we as a country would be better off with a collective attitude like this. As much as I enjoyed my youth, there comes a time to cast aside childish things. I still have fun, go out with my friends, and find time for recreation. But it’s never at the expense of my adult responsibilities as a husband, father, or member of society.

  • Reply October 18, 2012


    I too am working on being the man I want to be.  Making that creed happen is harder than I thought.  I’m 35 and am now just realizing what my career is and what the perfect job for me is.  Now the part comes where I have to make that job a reality.  It’s a challenge for me, considering the last 10 years I haven’t really had to put myself out there and show and prove too much to anyone.  
    Where it’s a job, a girl, a house, a car, a marathon… any dream.  Stay encouraged fellas!

  • Reply October 18, 2012


    I made a desktop version. Just because.

    • Reply October 19, 2012


       Caleb, thanks so much. I initially tried to make Andrea’s iPhone version above my desktop without realizing, then scrolled down to find this.

      • Reply October 19, 2012


         Lol, ANDREW’s iPhone version. Sorry dude.

    • Reply October 23, 2012


      I did the same thing as Dave. Thank you so much.

  • Reply October 21, 2012

    Julius Leachman III

    Wow! I’m inspired! This speaks to the heart and is spoken from the heart. I too feel like I’ve skated on by through a great portion of my life with nothing great or worthy to show for it. I feel like I’m still a child despite being in my early-20s. I’m sick of this feeling this way, it’s worse than feeling like a loser at life. I’m not just going to become a better man, I plan to become a MAN…

  • Reply October 21, 2012


    I’m well inspired. Everything in this declaration applies to me. I feel the same, and suspect many more do as well. Thank you Andrew for sharing and well done “Live_like_a_man”.

  • Reply October 23, 2012

    Chris D

    When I was a child, I
    talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child.
    When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. (1 Cor 13:11)

  • Reply October 23, 2012


    Read “Ulysses” by Tennyson. Particularly the last dozen or so lines. Concludes with one of my favorite quotes “to strive, to seek, to find, and not to yield.”

    It is quite pertinent to what this guy is talking about.

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