Stephanie Spills the Dirt: 10 Traits Women Love

Stephanie Spills the Dirt: 10 Traits Women Love
Copyright Stephanie Aparicio | Photos by Pepper Negron

Stephanie Spills the Dirt:

10 Traits Women Love

1. Appreciation

Appreciation is REALLY important. We don't mind cleaning up after you, (no matter how clean you think you are, you're not) washing the dishes you left in the sink, or doing your laundry occasionally as long as you let us know you appreciate it and not expect it.

2. Organization

Organization is the foundation to planning and prioritizing one's life. If a guy is unorganized and all over the place, his direction in life is surely just as hectic and his ability to maintain a relationship will be questioned.

3. Observation

Women love to be noticed. A compliment will let her know you notice the little things. A gentleman is interested in things about his girlfriend or wife that he doesn't notice about other women. He likes the way her new shoes look with her dress. He looks forward to seeing what she bought when she went shopping.

4. Drive

A woman appreciates a man who knows what he wants. Persistence is a very attractive quality. Women don't mind seeing men fail at something as long as their drive isn't affected.

5. Intelligence

Women are impressed by a man's intelligence. It is good to know a man can stimulate a woman's mind.

6. Outlook

A positive outlook on life goes along way. A woman wants to be with someone who will always encourage her and not bring her down.

7. Genuine Chivalry

Chivalry is always appreciated. It's hard to find a gentleman that thinks a woman should be treated like a lady who doesn't have ulterior motives.

8. Spontaneity

Adventure will always spice up a woman's life. Remind her to live up the moments.

9. Confidence

There is nothing sexier than to be with a man who is confident about himself. No woman wants to be with a man who has insecurities.

10. Self Maintenance

If a man doesn't care about himself, how can we expect him to care for us? Self Maintenance covers many important things – a man should obviously keep himself clean, with well presented hair, brushed teeth, and great overall hygiene. Attractive men also keep themselves healthy and while we don't expect fitness models, when a man presents himself well in all these aspects it is a great indication of his mindset.

Stephanie Aparicio was born and raised in New Jersey. She is working as a fashion stylist and model in New York and New Jersey. Steph enjoys going out for music and pizza. She lives by Albert Einstein's quote, “A person starts to live when he can live outside himself.” If you wish to contact her visit her at


  • Reply June 9, 2008


    OUCH. 3 for 5. You’re beautiful Steph.

  • Reply June 9, 2008


    Gorgeous photos, great points too.

  • Reply June 9, 2008


    Great photos and writing. It’s nice to not just get “girls like humorous guys” and get some real advice.

  • Reply June 9, 2008


    very beautiful!

  • Reply June 9, 2008


    Steph doing great things. Good points!!!

  • Reply June 12, 2008

    Robert Piazza

    Hey Beautiful,

    It’s great to see you reaching your goals!!!!! You look great ! I read your ten traits, & I believe what you say is true ! You’re a beautiful person on the inside as well as the outside!!!!!! Keep in touch , I always think of you when I look out of my studio window. Everyone comments on how beautiful the shot of you looks lying on the bed with your blue braclet!
    I hope to see you soon,

    Robert Piazza Photographer

  • Reply June 16, 2008


    These are definitely the truth. Every ADULT male should value these traits.

  • Reply July 24, 2008


    Once more you have proven your valor. Your intelligence and insight are only rivaled by your fabulous smile and gorgeous hair. I have always appreciated your ability to both communicate and not be too full of yourself. Its women like you that give men like me hope in the opposite species. May God continue to bless and keep you strong.

    Hope for much, but expect little and you will never be disappointed.

  • Reply February 11, 2009


    Wow! It was for a while that I had not the chance to read a 99.9 % garbage blog post! On the other hand the point that women today prefer a brushed tooth more than a clean heart suits the female form all over the world.

    The things mentioned in the post can be true for those who look for a sex machine and indeed something to show to other gals in weekend parties and not someone to live with.

    No suprise when women with such viewpoints screw up the overall image of love.

    “There is nothing sexier than to be with a man who is confident about himself…” This is absolutely rubbish!
    This is what we can call it a true manifestation of ego and a projection of an ill mind – no matter how “healthy” her body may look – on a subject which is far far away from her hands. The alternative for the above sentence, when you wipe the intellectual dust off it – may be: “There is nothing sexier than to be with a man who has a 15″ penis!”

    This sentence propagandizes selfishness and egoism around and is worthy to be interpreted as the authors autobiography called: “Finally: How I found my favorite sex machine with feet”.


  • Reply March 26, 2009

    Joshua M

    Gorgeous Pics! But your even more gorgeous inside!

  • Reply August 9, 2009


    This is a truthful accounting of what many women want (demand ?) for good or for ill. Hossein’s comment above raises some valid objections, but that doesn’t change the fact that most women (even the ones who aren’t stuck-up and high on themselves) like confidence and like the guy to plan things and to entertain them.

    The Drive issue cuts both ways. You have to have it, but then if you’re spending more than ~55 hours/week at work you’re going to start hearing about how you like work more than you like her (and/or the kids, if applicable).

    What REALLY puzzles me though is all of the fawning comments attached to this article. Come on guys, have some self-respect.

  • Reply October 22, 2009


    These points are just bang on. Women just love to consume confidence in men, it litteraly draws them. Where can i buy some ?

  • Reply May 30, 2010


    Great Site! I wondered if I might be able to quote a portion of your site and use a few things for a term paper. Please email me if that would be fine. Thanks

  • Reply February 5, 2012

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