Plumbing Your Way to Your Girlfriend’s Heart

Plumbing Your Way to Your Girlfriend’s Heart

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A few weeks ago, we showed you how to clear a giant dallman out of your girlfriend's toilet. You … didn't tell her, did you? Anyway, somehow she got the idea that you are some kind of expert handyman. Her landlord isn't returning her calls, and she's asking you to come over with your toolbox — your toolbox! — to fix a leaky faucet

And you can't exactly refuse. I mean, she's making you french toast for the fourth day in a row. So, what do you do? You have two options: a) tell her you have no idea how to fix a leaky faucet, or b) don't be a drip! Head straight for Primer and read

Plumbing Your Way to Your Girlfriend's Heart

By Jesse Stern | Photos by Jeffrey Buras

So, it's not an emergency, but you have this odd urge to make her happy. Besides, the dripping faucet is annoying, and you noticed a small puddle under the sink. Her tub takes a long time to drain too — whenever you take a shower you are both standing up to your ankles in lukewarm water, which cools down the fun of showering together.

Oh, and back home your roommate had a party. We won't get into the details … except that ever since his party, the base of the toilet is oozing water.

Your Toolbox

Sounds uncomfortably grown-up, doesn't it? Truth is, having a toolbox, with the right tools in it, can get you out of many a jam. As an added bonus, you are guaranteed to win serious Man Points among your buddies. Pretty soon you'll want to have a toolbox at home, a toolbag in your car, maybe even a tool utility belt and a cape! Slow down, macho. The only guys who wear capes are at the comic convention at that hotel by the airport. Stick to the basics. No utility belt. No cape.

Last week, we told you how to fill your toolbox. For now, plan to make a couple of trips to the hardware store. But first, we have to assess the situation. Grab what you have, toss it in your backpack, and let's head over to her place. We'll get warmed up with the leak under the sink.

Problem: Water under Sink

This is an easy fix, because the culprit is almost always a loose pipe connection, AND the loose connection is almost always at the p-trap.

What's that you say? What's a p-trap? Okay, the p-trap is a U-shaped pipe just under the sink's drain. In fact, there's a p-trap under every drain in every room of every house or apartment. Why is a U-shaped pipe called a p-trap? Two reasons. One, it catches your girlfriend's p-rized p-ossessions (diamond earrings, baby rings), if they fall down the drain. Two, it holds a bit of water, creating an airtight seal, which prevents p-utrid p-ee and p-oo from wafting up into the bathroom from the sewer pipe.

What you'll need:

  • A pipe wrench (or a big adjustable wrench): The pipe wrench looks exactly like the murder weapon in the board game Clue. By far the manliest of all tools, it is heavy, usually painted red, and has huge teeth for gripping and turning pipes. It's also handy for large nuts under sinks.
  • Teflon tape: White tape in a blue plastic roll. Ask for it by name.
  • A small bucket or plastic container to catch the water

P Trap

Solution: For easy access, move all the stuff out from under the sink: cleaning products, tampons, hair rollers, a hot water bottle with a long tube attached to it (tip: don't ask her about this), extra toilet paper, and so on. Next, try to figure out where the leak is. Unless the pipe is broken, the leak will be at a fitting. The first place to check is the far side of the p-trap — e.g. on the side farthest from you. If the pipe below this joint is wet, while the pipe above the joint is dry, congratulations: you've found your leak.

Two important words about under-the-sink pipes, especially pipes of the bathroom variety: BE GENTLE. These pipes and joints are delicate. Some are copper, some are even made of a fragile plastic-like material. If you break a pipe joint, you will have to spend more money, and your french toast will get cold. Nobody wants that, so be gentle.

Put your container under the p-trap. Get out your pipe wrench or large adjustable wrench. On this particular joint, the threads are above the nut. This means that in order to loosen the joint, you should turn the nut to the left. Thus, if the handle is to the left of the nut, push; handle right of nut, pull.

Also, for reasons too boring to explain, the big part of the pipe wrench should always be away from the direction you are turning. Thus, if you push the handle, the big part faces you; pull the handle, open part faces you.

If you need to rescue any p-rized p-ossessions, take off the whole p-trap. Loosen the other joint attached to the vertical drain pipe. Dump out any hair, marbles, toy dinosaurs, gold krugerrands, bobby pins, baby rings, diamond earrings, etc. Next, get ready to put it all back together in reverse order — first the drain side, then the wall side.

This is where the Teflon tape comes in. This handy stuff helps to seal joints in water pipes. Teflon tape is also a lubricant, making the pipe joints easier to tighten. For gas pipes, there's a different kind of tape, yellowish, in a yellowish plastic roll. Not interchangeable.

Try to keep the tape dry, because it's harder to use when wet. Tear off eight to twelve inches or so. If you're really anal, and can't stand the way it tears, you can make a clean cut with a pair of scissors without losing any Man Points.

The goal is to wrap Teflon tape around the pipe's threads, keeping the tape as wide as possible. To prevent your Teflon tape from bunching up, whichever way the nut is going to tighten, wrap the tape in the same direction. Teflon tape is annoying, but cheap, so if you mess up, just tear off another strip and try again. It should wrap around the pipe two or three times, covering all the threads on the outside of each pipe.

From there, tighten it up by hand, add another 1/4 turn or so with the wrench, then test it by running some water. Keep the small bucket or container under the p-trap for a couple days, just to check whether you need to tighten a tad more.

A note on copper pipes: In general, don't use Teflon tape with copper pipes. Copper is a soft and delicate metal. Tape can easily cause you to accidentally over-tighten, and ruin, the expensive copper fittings.

Problem: Leaky Faucet

Drip-drip-drip. No matter how much you tighten the knobs, curse at the dripping sink, or cover your ears with a pillow, it keeps dripping. There's a secret to dripping faucets, and the fix is a bit tricky. Since there are so many different kinds of faucets, you have to be sure you're getting exactly the right replacement parts. Still no big deal, even for the budding handyman. This will require a trip to the hardware store, so eat your french toast first. Don't worry, I'll wait.

What you'll need

  • A Phillips head screwdriver (that's the kind with a cross shape).
  • For some kitchen sinks, you may also need an L-shaped Allen (hex) wrench of the appropriate size.

A pair of vice grips. Basically locking pliers, this is a very impressive and manly tool. Definitely the coolest hand tool. To use, turn the nut on the end of the handle to tighten or loosen the pliers. Then, when you squeeze, they chomp down on whatever you're gripping. They should be just tight enough that a gentle squeeze bumps them shut; they should then stay shut, even if you let go. To release, simply pull the little lever on the handle. Practice with empty vice grips until you get the hang of it. Be careful not to over-squeeze, or you could cause damage to nuts, gears, or blood vessels. Trust me, you're not the first person that has wondered how hard they can squeeze their finger.

Water Shutff

Solution: First, turn off the water. Under the sink, you should see a pair of handles, known as shut-off valves. Tighten them all the way by hand, then test the faucet to make sure the water's off.

Here's the secret. The faucet knobs have nothing to do with the dripping faucet, and are the key to entering the matrix of gaskets and valves that control the flow of water. So swallow the red pill, and get rid of the knobs. On bathroom sinks, the plastic “H” or “C” pop off, revealing a screw. Loosen the screw and the handle should pull right off.

Behind the handle, there's a spindly looking thing with a gear on the end. This is the valve that turns the water on and off. It should turn counter-clockwise by hand for a few turns, then stop. Use the vice grips to loosen it a bit more. Once it's easy to turn again, loosen and remove the valve by hand.

Behind or inside this valve is a black rubber gasket. This gasket is the key to dripping faucets and, since your faucet drips, it is probably mangled and deformed. Most such gaskets are tapered, i.e. wider on one end. Notice how your gasket is facing, then remove it and put it in your pocket. You're going to take it to the hardware store in a minute. Repeat this process with the other faucet. The gaskets are cheap, so you might as well replace both of them. Before heading for the hardware store, make a mental note of the faucet's brand. Bring one of the spindly valves too, just in case.

Smaller hardware stores sell individual gaskets. The larger warehouse-style stores often sell kits, which may include valves, springs and such. In either case, make sure the one you buy is exactly the same as the one you're replacing. Check the brand, and ask for help if necessary.

Put the gasket back, either in the hole or onto the back of the valve. If tapered, it should be pretty obvious which way it goes, even if the old one was mangled beyond recognition. Next, screw the valve back in. When it becomes slightly hard to turn, vice-grip it past that point, then use your fingers to tighten it to the “off” position. Exit the matrix by covering the valve with the knobs. Screwing the knobs back on and replace the “H” and “C” caps. Finally, turn on the shutoff valves under the sink (slowly, and one at a time, just in case). No more drips!

Problem: Slow Draining Bathtub

Now, before you snuggle back into bed, let's take a look at the slow draining bathtub. Something (hair, dirt, gunk) is clogging a pipe somewhere. The closer it is to the actual drain, the easier the fix.

What you'll need:

  • One or two pokey, proddy tools (like a coat hanger, needle-nose pliers, or tweezers)
  • If that doesn't work, a plunger
  • If that doesn't work, some kind of chemical clog remover
  • If that doesn't work, a plumber's snake. Read on, friend.

Solution: The first thing to do is get rid of any obvious obstructions. If the tub's plug or shower grate is removable, set it aside. Reach into the drain with your coat hanger, tweezers, fingers, or needle-nose pliers. Chances are, you will pull up some gross, scummy hair. Once you've got as much of that out of the way as you can, and if the tub is still stuck, it's time to dig a little deeper.

You've already learned the physics of the plunger, so grab it again and let's get pumping. Put the plunger's cup over the bathtub drain, press down evenly, and pull up hard. Try pumping the plunger quickly, several pumps at a time. This should pull up some dirty gunk from deep in the drain pipes. If anything solid comes up, set it aside so it doesn't go back down the drain, genius. If this doesn't solve the problem, dig deeper. Note that if you are plunging a double sink, plug the side that you are not plunging, or you'll just pull air from the other side of the sink.

Buy a bottle of Drano or Liquid Plumber (basically a thick, heavy bleach), from any grocery, hardware, or drug store. Dump it down the drain and wait a few hours. This should take care of any hair or basic gunk. If it's still stuck, you'll have to get serious.

The next thing to try is a plumber's snake. This is a long metal cable with a spring at the end. You can pick up a 25′ hand snake for under $20, which is fine for small clogs. Before you go out and buy a snake, though, make sure that the drain in question is big enough to stick something down it. If you need something more heavy duty, try renting an electric snake from your hardware store. Basically, the goal is to disturb whatever is in there, so shove that snake down the drain until it won't go any farther. (Jiggle it a bit as you feed it into the drain, to be sure you get past any unobstructed pipe joints.) Once you find the trouble spot, turn the crank clockwise. This will hopefully catch whatever is stuck there and you can pull it loose.

Most houses and apartment buildings have an overflow drain. If present, you generally find this on the side of the house, near the kitchen sink. it's a pipe stuck in the wall, often at a 45-degree angle, with a big square bolt on it. Obviously, if the building doesn't belong to you, make absolutely sure you know what you are messing with; and it wouldn't hurt to get permission first. Landlords tend to get irritated by things like explosions and floods. Also, if the bathroom is stuck and the kitchen is not, the kitchen overflow will be useless to you.

Anyway, to get at the overflow, use your pipe wrench to remove the big square bolt cap. (Remember the big, closed part of the wrench goes behind whichever direction you're turning.) If water flies out at you, the clog is below, and you can use your snake to go deeper into the pipes. If no water flies out, the clog is above this overflow, and you'll have to snake down from the drain pipe (usually indicates an easy fix).

Problem: Toilet Oozes Water

So you fixed all the leaks at your girlfriend's apartment and decided to spend a few days at home. Back at your dark, smelly basement apartment, you're faced with the aftermath of a brutal party: sticky floors, shoe prints on the walls and ceiling, an overflowing recycle bin. The entire apartment smells like a steaming pile of dirty socks. And worst of all, the toilet is now seeping water around its base. What to do?

Under the toilet, where its drain meets the pipe that goes to the sewer, there lives a yellow wax ring. When your roommate tried to find out how many people could stand on the toilet, he damaged this wax ring. Our goal is to replace it.

What you'll need:

  • An open-ended wrench of the correct size, or an adjustable wrench.
  • Your roommate, or a strong friend
  • One or two Sunday editions of your local newspaper
  • A putty knife. Basically a flat piece of metal with a handle. A 2″ blade will do the trick.
  • A wax ring for the toilet. Ask for it by name.

Vice Grips

Solution: Toilets are heavy. Wake up your roommate and make sure he stays nearby. Better yet, have him spread out the newspaper on the floor.

Turn off the shut-off valve at the base of the toilet by cranking it all the way clockwise. Hand-tight should be plenty. Next, flush. Having successfully shut off the water, the cistern will remain empty, making the toilet lighter. Next, flip open or unscrew the two little plastic caps on either side of the toilet's floor. Grab your wrench and loosen both of the nuts that hold the toilet in place.

Now, get your roommate to help you lift the toilet off the floor and onto the newspaper. Beneath the toilet is a disgusting, malformed, yellow wax ring. Do your best to scrape up all the wax with your putty knife, wiping the remains on the newspaper.

Put the new wax ring in place, centered over the hole in the floor. Push it down a bit, so that it stays centered when you put the toilet back on it.

The rest is cake. With your roommate, lower the toilet straight down onto the bolts that hold it in place, trying not to slide it around too much. Screw and cap the nuts on the floor, and you're done!

Tip of the Week: Patience

Plumbing problems come in many shapes and sizes. Often the problem is obvious, or just beneath the surface. Fixing things yourself is a great confidence builder, and many landlords will lower your rent if you do a good job taking care of your place. That said, use your best judgment when deciding whether to tackle it yourself or leave it to the professionals. Old pipes can be hard to loosen, and it's easy to over-tighten and damage plumbing fixtures. Spending a little money on a plumber can save you hours of frustration or — even worse — expensive water damage caused by forcing a pipe or forgetting to turn off the water before going to work. If you do it yourself, take your time, and don't force anything.

Oh, and you earn extra points for putting all her stuff back under the sink when you're done!


  • Reply June 30, 2008


    Very thorough. Good post, Jesse!

  • Reply June 30, 2008


    this is stuff i feel like i should haven’t definitely learned by now. 🙁 they don’t teach this stuff in shop class.

  • Reply June 30, 2008


    another good article jesse!

  • Reply July 15, 2008


    On fixing the toilet wax ring you forgot to advise to disconnect the water supply line. 🙂

  • Reply August 5, 2008



    I just finished replacing a toilet and installing a pedestal sink in our main bathroom. All seemed well until yesterday when it appeared there was air in the pipe connected to the cold water shower faucet. To rectify the situation, I closed the main water valve and then turned on all the faucets in the house till they were drained. I then opened the main valve partially until some water was coming through the faucets, turned off the faucets, and then opened the main valve all the way.

    While that seemed to solve the problem, when my wife showered this morning, a small (though not insignificant) puddle of water appeared from under the base of the toilet. It doesn’t appear to be coming from the water line or from the tank, and it only happens when the shower is used. This theory was tested when my wife showered again this evening.

    Is this a wax ring situation or does it portend something a bit more ominous? Any and all recommendations would be greatly appreciated.

  • Reply August 5, 2008


    Greetings Ray, It does sound like a wax ring situation, except that you say it only happens when the shower is on. It’s possible that the shower is doing some kind of pressure thing, but this is an odd puzzle.

    The wax ring is definitely the first thing I’d check. Have a fresh one handy, and make sure it forms a complete seal around the floor of the toilet. The floor should be as clean and flat as possible at the point of contact. Also, if your remodel included tile (or anything that raised the floor), you may need two wax rings to make a good seal.

    A few other possibilities, just in case:

    1. It may be worth running the sink for a few minutes, to see if the same puddle appears.

    2. Check that the water is definitely coming from under the toilet, and not from some small leak in the shower door or wall.

    3 .If you can get under the house to search for leaks, do so while the shower is running, to rule out anything more ominous.

    4. If you really get stumped, buy some food coloring at the grocery store. Put one color (e.g. blue) in the toilet bowl and one (e.g. red) in the fill tank. Check the color of the puddle on the floor to find the culprit.

    I hope this helps! Happy hunting!

  • Reply August 7, 2008



    Just wanted to thank you for your suggestions. I was truly perplexed about the water pooling under the base of the toilet. That evening, following the second occurence, I did check in the basement only to find everything dry. And I couldn’t figure how if the toilet had flushed successfully for nearly two weeks, why the wax ring would all of a sudden need replacing. Anyway, these were things going through my mind when I posted my concerns.

    I am happy to relay that all is well. The pooling water was a result of having no shower curtain in place, just a liner. We’re currently awaiting a new one by mail. Because of this, the water was running off the front-side of the tub. Once it hit the tile, it was then collecting under the toilet.

    Once again, though, thank you for responding to my post.

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  • Reply October 27, 2008


    Great article! While searching for a way to fix my gurgling toilet, I learned how t0 fix my leaky faucet (yea!). The problem: the wax ring (2 yrs. old) was causing our toilet to leak into our unfinished basement. The builder’s handyman came out, replaced the ring, and the leak stopped. BUT – since that time, every time we flush our toilet (which is a lot; it’s the main floor toilet) air gurgles back up really loudly from the toilet. It has been a week now, and still the loud gurgling sound after flushing. Air is trapped somewhere, but what should I do? The handyman who fixed the wax ring doesn’t want to do anything about it. I tried some idea where I turned on every faucet in the entire house and then flushed the toilet, but that didn’t work. Any suggestions?

  • Reply June 25, 2009


    I love your site! If only I could get my husband to read up on it.

    I have a hair clog in my bathtub drain. I have cleaned it a few times before since we’ve lived in our 5 year old house so I’m more than capable to doing this. I guess I waited too long this time b/c I managed to strip the bolt (which is wrapped in hair) as i tried to unscrew the cap to access the clog. I tried pliers too.

    Any other suggestions? THANKS!!!

  • Reply September 17, 2009

    Cindy Davidson

    Thanks for posting this. Having a leak is such a pain and figuring out the cause can make you go bald.

  • Reply November 7, 2009


    When you take the toilet off the original spot is there suposed to be sewer water in the hole? Does that mean I have a back up in the sewer? How far down should the water be to sucessfilly replace the toilet and wax ring?

  • Reply December 18, 2009

    Cosmetyn Stretch Mark

    great title! girls want a handyman

  • Reply December 24, 2009

    [email protected] Tips

    Hahaha.. what a great article! To save you all from the trouble, I would rather suggest if you have your girlfriend over. Lock and seal it.

  • Reply January 11, 2010


    Wow, very thorough and accurate article.

    @Mary, Mary you can go to your local hardware store and buy a $3 plastic handheld drain clearing device(looks like a long skinny plastic finger with teeth). There will be instructions on the back and you should have that toilet draining normally in no time.
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  • Reply February 5, 2010

    twins baby showers

    great stuff, love the theme!

  • Reply March 10, 2010

    Steve Miller

    I have to do the bathtub drain cleaning every few months or so. Just part of having a big family. Thanks for the tips.
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  • Reply June 18, 2010

    Albany Homes

    Yes doing all kind of plumbing stuff is my saturday activity. Thanks for the post!

  • Great article! While searching for a way to fix my gurgling toilet, I learned how to fix my leaky faucet
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  • Reply October 4, 2010

    bijuterii argint

    nice instructions for a DIY job, and perharps a way to a girlfriend or (if not too late) for a wife’s heart. i like this kind of articles. they should be a must for many men out there bijuterii

  • Reply November 2, 2010

    Mike @ Plumbers Bromley

    There were some great tips on this site, thanks for sharing it all with us and good luck every one 🙂

  • Reply February 11, 2011

    Free Baby Samples

    Haha, I love it when my hubby does handy work around the house. Great article!

  • Couldn’t help but admire the photos – well done. But I don’t think I need my boyfriend to fix my faucet now, you’ve explained everything I needed to know. But if he wants to plumb his way to my heart – ahem – I think I’ll let him!

  • In response to the slow draining bathtub: Honestly 8 out of 10 times the needle nose pliers way will clear things out. Be ready though the stuff that comes out is pretty disgusting

  • Reply July 22, 2011


    Ah, great article! I’m having troubles with my bathtub, it’s slow draining! I’m gonna follow your advice and try to solve it! Thanks, you’re a lifesaver!

  • Reply October 16, 2011


    Some problems can be solved by yourself but still some are there that you can’t do without professional. It depends on you and your thinking what you can fix and what you can’t.

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  • Lol! This article is fantastic. My wife loves me because I am a plumber. Unfortunately it brings my work home and I find myself unblocking toilets and seeing things which I would rather not associate with my wife…. But none the less, after a good fix up my wife seems rather proud and it’s worth it in the end.

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