When we don't train for the surprisingly strenuous task of controlling our own thoughts and emotions, we can't enforce any control over our attention, our reactions, and how we perceive our lives.
Staying with friends or your new girlfriend's parents? As the saying goes, actions speak louder than words. Let them know you appreciate their hospitality.
We find ourselves in a funny situation these days: We say "yes" to all the annoying schedule stretching requests, but say "no" to all the things that will help us grow as individuals.