Today I Will Be a Man – One Reddit User’s Manifesto for Being a Better Man

Are you the best man you can be?

Recently, a Reddit user shared his personal mission for being the best man he can be. I think all of us can relate to it. We want to be a certain type of person. A man of principle, work, and character. Devotion, responsibility, and thought.

But sometimes it feels like we can be better. Reprinted here with permission, is a heartfelt declaration to being the best man we all know we can be.

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Today I Will Be a Man

I don't know what it is. I don't know what it was. But for all my life I haven't been a man.

At any point in my life I can say “this, this is why I didn't need to grow up”.

I was protected by my parents.

I was protected by the money I earned.

I was protected by people going easy on me.

And never did I take responsibility. Never did I work hard. Never did I do things because they needed to be done – instead I just did the minimum to get around – and for the rest found excuses.

I have lived like a child, all my life.

And I am in my twenties and still I live like a child.

I complain about the things I lack – instead of working for them.

I complain about the things others don't do – instead of doing them myself.

I worry about what might come – but I don't plan anything.

I pity myself in my sadness or worries – instead of acting upon them.

I wonder why I sit alone at home – instead of going out and making friends.

I hate myself for not learning the skills or languages I want to learn – instead of making the effort.

All my life I have lived like a child. All my life I was too scared or worried or lazy or distracted or immature to stand up and say:

This is what I want, and I will make it happen.

This is the person I want to meet and I will meet him.

This is the job I want and I will fight my ass off to get it.

This is the book I need to know and I will sit down and I will not eat or drink until I have finished it.

This is the world I want to conquer and I will not give up until I have conquered it.

Now is the time. Now is the time that I need to stand up and fight.

Why now?

Because else it is too late.

The longer I wait, the longer I keep thinking and speaking and acting like a child, the longer I will stay a child.

The longer I wait, the more unreachable my goals become.

The longer I wait, the less time that I can be a man.

The longer I wait, the more of my life will I have wasted.

Today is the day I will become a man.

Today is the day I will think like a man, speak like a man and act like a man.

Today and every day from now:

I will be there for those that need me.

I will stand up for what is right.

I will do what needs to be done.

I will fight for what I want.

I will persevere, even when things get hard.

I will work even when I feel lazy.

I will do sport even when my body aches.

I will learn even when my mind feels numb.

I will meet people even when I'm scared.

I will speak when I need to speak.

I will work when I need to work.

I will be what I want to be.

Today I will be a man.

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Andrew Snavely

Andrew founded Primer in 2008 and brings 15+ years of men's style expertise. Known for his practical, relatable approach to style and self-development, he has been a recognized speaker at conferences and has styled work for top brands. Off-duty, he loves photography & editing, and enjoys road trips with his dog, Leela. Raised in rural Pennsylvania, educated in DC, and living in LA for nearly 20 years, Andrew's diverse experiences shape the relatable and real-world advice that has helped millions through Primer. On Instagram: @andrewsnavely and @primermagazine.