Comments on: How Do I Know If She’s The One? A Look at Romantic Love, Perfect Love & Relative Love

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By: Jayson

Jayson — Wed, 11 Jan 2012 20:40:13 +0000

Rob, The John Wellwood book is solid, but my experience with guys like you (and myself) is that reading about it ain’t going to shift your patterns.

Hiring a coach or therapist to work through this one will get it done.

best,

jasyon

By: Rob

Rob — Tue, 10 Jan 2012 17:04:50 +0000

Can you recommend a book that will help me get this into my thick skull? I’m about to ruin yet another great relationship with my Grass is Greener tendencies….

By: Shakter

Shakter — Sun, 18 Sep 2011 06:47:25 +0000

This is one of the best more realistic views and takes, on the subject so far for me, thanks.

By: Amani

Amani — Tue, 21 Sep 2010 05:46:06 +0000

This article will cause so much speculations amongst women, therfore, I think men should be very cautious and alert ……

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By: M.T. Amerson

M.T. Amerson — Fri, 25 Jun 2010 23:05:00 +0000

This was a very good article. It reminds me of the Four Loves by C.S. Lewis. Our culture teaches us a very warped version of love, which leads to a lot of confusion for many men.

I recently called off a long term relationship with a girl. I tried dating someone else and went through the perfect love stage and quickly learned about idolatry. Idolatry is when someone seems so perfect to you when you first start dating because of the wonderful euphoric feeling you get from being around them. Then you suddenly discover that they are not so perfect and everything comes crashing down. It did not end well.

So now I am trying to focus my energy on jump starting a career (I just recently graduated) and in my spare time have fun meeting new people and hanging out. I know that I will eventually find someone who I am compatible with enough to want to put in the effort to strive for that perfect love through relative love. We must remember that love is a loyalty sworn, not a burning for a moment.

By: michael

michael — Mon, 29 Mar 2010 03:13:33 +0000

haY this helped me but i still think i made the wrong chose.these two girls were fighting over me.this one was realy hot butt the uther one was smart . so i chose the hot one.but i coht her kissing sumone.she said it was her cousen.i asked her mom she said nun of her couse were here.so im going to leave her.and go for the smart one. i no its not right to do but i have no chose.

By: Nathan

Nathan — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 05:08:16 +0000

Thanks, this was really helpful.

By: John Rybarczyk

John Rybarczyk — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 02:16:32 +0000

I believe this is a very clear and all around understanding of this question. Covered all the major viewpoints and sides. What also needs to be understood when you’re asking yourself this question is that are you really ready to settle down? Not always is she the one, when you think about it there could be a million “the ones” out there that you could live very happy and fulfilling lives with. If you are compatible and the relationship has the potential to bring more happiness than stress and sadness and you are ready then go for it, shes the one.